I was reading a recent article which reminded me very much of my recent experience; THE WEDDING. It seems that everyone dreams of this Ultra Glamorous over the top wedding extravaganza. I mean who doesn’t? You were accustomed by it from our daily lives; Reality shows, Celebrity’s, and magazines. Oh not to mention Spanish Novelas played a huge role in one wanting the best dress, the best venue, ETC.
I was there myself a couple months. I put a deposit on one of the most beautiful Venues in the Inland Empire. I was planning on going to the Running of the Brides in Columbus Ohio in pursuit of Designer dress from Reem Acra or something similar to its breathtaking designs. I was planning on only having intimate wedding party where I was excluding Kids. This really triggered me with anger because I felt like it was my choice to do without kids. Let me explain in my culture Mexican people will show up to your wedding with 10 extra people that you might have not invited, get very offensive about Adult Only weddings, I guess they don’t believe in hiring a Babysitting or don’t mind they brats running around the party ; Which was one of my pet peeves.
Okay let’s move on … I still had about 6 months of planning the Perfect wedding. This was a big deal for me and my fiancé at the time because we were going to be the First ones in the family to get married through Church and bc we wanted to get married not the obvious reasons like getting knocked up ETC. So it was a big deal for both us, I felt like the pressure was on because everyone was looking up to what kind of wedding we were going to have. I was very careful not to slip details about the wedding to our families because I didn’t want anyone using our ideas. I wasn’t having the usual wedding flowers, decorations or centerpieces.
Oh I kept my mouth very closed. Not a peep…
That very month we got invited to our friend’s wedding, something small. That’s what she said. Lol.
So yea as planned very small intimate wedding with both of they’re families and friends. Her parents made Mexican food and we all drank champagne; More then others uhum, Ivette. So after a long day me and my brother decided to go to our local Winco which is open 24 hrs. He was like “why are you waiting all this time to get married” that’s when it hit me… “Why am I waiting this long?” I had already a wedding dress….but most importantly I only had half the money to pay off the venue and it was pretty pricey. And not to mention I was the only paying for it at the time because Jesse had lost his job. I couldn’t blame him. We had numerous arguments about him not finding a job everyday. Arguments about not being able to afford my dream wedding; Arguing about money. It was driving me crazy. It was driving his crazy…
So the next day I have came up with a conclusion to all of this… I got enough cajones to go talk to Jesse about my proposal. I thought about it, prayed about it. And it just filled me with peace. It was done. Jesse and I were getting married in 8 weeks… The dress was a beautiful Oleg Cassini from David’s Bridal, his tux was a rental; the venue was my house’s backyard. And let me tell you I was super exited!!! Not so much about the backyard lol but after getting some feedback on some friends about decorating it. It was a done deal!
I think that when my brother said that to me he really opened my eyes. I didn’t want spend years saving up enough money to have my dream wedding. I have seen multiple couples that live with each other and after 3-5 yrs they are still hoping to have that dream wedding. Its sad to think that all they’re worry is the world is bringing enough money to the table for the dream wedding instead of being able to enjoy themselves. I didn’t want to be that couple. I wanted to move on with my life, enjoy being married and not having to worry about anything .I didn’t like arguing with my fiancé about money everyday. It nice to be home and only worry about the rent, bills to pay… so no I didn’t have the lavish wedding party I first wanted, I lost the deposit and I’m fine with it. I wouldn’t change anything. Maybe some people lol but other than that I am happy that I could move to a different chapter of my life; Marriage. And furnishing our apt. hehe……
Esma
I was there myself a couple months. I put a deposit on one of the most beautiful Venues in the Inland Empire. I was planning on going to the Running of the Brides in Columbus Ohio in pursuit of Designer dress from Reem Acra or something similar to its breathtaking designs. I was planning on only having intimate wedding party where I was excluding Kids. This really triggered me with anger because I felt like it was my choice to do without kids. Let me explain in my culture Mexican people will show up to your wedding with 10 extra people that you might have not invited, get very offensive about Adult Only weddings, I guess they don’t believe in hiring a Babysitting or don’t mind they brats running around the party ; Which was one of my pet peeves.
Okay let’s move on … I still had about 6 months of planning the Perfect wedding. This was a big deal for me and my fiancé at the time because we were going to be the First ones in the family to get married through Church and bc we wanted to get married not the obvious reasons like getting knocked up ETC. So it was a big deal for both us, I felt like the pressure was on because everyone was looking up to what kind of wedding we were going to have. I was very careful not to slip details about the wedding to our families because I didn’t want anyone using our ideas. I wasn’t having the usual wedding flowers, decorations or centerpieces.
Oh I kept my mouth very closed. Not a peep…
That very month we got invited to our friend’s wedding, something small. That’s what she said. Lol.
So yea as planned very small intimate wedding with both of they’re families and friends. Her parents made Mexican food and we all drank champagne; More then others uhum, Ivette. So after a long day me and my brother decided to go to our local Winco which is open 24 hrs. He was like “why are you waiting all this time to get married” that’s when it hit me… “Why am I waiting this long?” I had already a wedding dress….but most importantly I only had half the money to pay off the venue and it was pretty pricey. And not to mention I was the only paying for it at the time because Jesse had lost his job. I couldn’t blame him. We had numerous arguments about him not finding a job everyday. Arguments about not being able to afford my dream wedding; Arguing about money. It was driving me crazy. It was driving his crazy…
So the next day I have came up with a conclusion to all of this… I got enough cajones to go talk to Jesse about my proposal. I thought about it, prayed about it. And it just filled me with peace. It was done. Jesse and I were getting married in 8 weeks… The dress was a beautiful Oleg Cassini from David’s Bridal, his tux was a rental; the venue was my house’s backyard. And let me tell you I was super exited!!! Not so much about the backyard lol but after getting some feedback on some friends about decorating it. It was a done deal!
I think that when my brother said that to me he really opened my eyes. I didn’t want spend years saving up enough money to have my dream wedding. I have seen multiple couples that live with each other and after 3-5 yrs they are still hoping to have that dream wedding. Its sad to think that all they’re worry is the world is bringing enough money to the table for the dream wedding instead of being able to enjoy themselves. I didn’t want to be that couple. I wanted to move on with my life, enjoy being married and not having to worry about anything .I didn’t like arguing with my fiancé about money everyday. It nice to be home and only worry about the rent, bills to pay… so no I didn’t have the lavish wedding party I first wanted, I lost the deposit and I’m fine with it. I wouldn’t change anything. Maybe some people lol but other than that I am happy that I could move to a different chapter of my life; Marriage. And furnishing our apt. hehe……
Esma
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